I am a Christian, and I am also a photographer. Now, I’m sure that you’re thinking, okay, nothing out of the norm here. What I didn’t mention is the fact that I also shoot boudoir photography. It’s not too often that I get asked about how I am able to be both. But it comes up every once in awhile. So I wanted to share with you why I shoot boudoir photography, even as a Christian (or especially as a Christian) and why I believe all Christian wives, or soon-to-be-wives should do a boudoir shoot.
Now, I’m not sure where I’d begin or even if laying out boudoir photography in biblically context would make any difference. I’ll just say that the whole of scripture implicitly points Christians away from anything having to do with lust in thought, word and deed. Any type of sensuality or nudity apart from between marriage partners shouldn’t even be “named among us”.
Now, in my study and concurred opinion, sexual desire and sensuality between a man and a woman is a gift from God meant solely for the marriage. Anything outside of that, according to scripture, is out of bounds. Of course that’s all in context of this (nudity/sensuality in photography and in general). We’ll, enough of that, let’s get started!
I asked my client would it be okay for me to use some of her photos to write and illustrate this article.
What is a boudoir shoot?
Boudoir is pronounced Bu-dwah or Bu-dwar, and is technically defined as, “a woman’s bedroom or private room for dressing or resting.” So in the photography world, that involves a portrait shoot that a woman does privately for her man, usually in lingerie. Although the shoot is primarily done as a gift for her man, the women find that the shoot is very pampering and creates a space for her to feel feminine, lovely, and even sexy. Women spend far too much time comparing themselves to other women they see in magazines or on TV and feeling “blah” about themselves. Especially tired Mommies who feel more like a Mom than a woman, most times.
Why should Christian couples be interested in boudoir?
God created men to be highly visual. It’s the way we’re built. I once heard a pastor refer to a man’s brain as a Rolodex, where as men in general are bombarded with imagery of sexy woman all the time and no matter how committed men are to looking away to avoid lusting after the women in those images, it’s inevitable that some of those images are going to get in, and even pop up from time to time. And, whether he knows it or not, he remembers them. How great would it be if a man’s memory was chalked full of lovely images of his wife and the majority of the images popping up in his mind were images he could cherish and feel good about? I believe that boudoir photography is best used in the context of marriage. I think any man would be delighted that his wife (or wife-to-be) would think enough of him to give him a gift that takes a lot of courage and love to do.
The other point to consider is that in a healthy, Christian marriage, a woman should feel sexy, desired, and appreciated for her body even with it’s imperfections. (Obviously there is a lot more about her to be appreciated, but that’s a post for another day) But when a woman doesn’t feel good about the way she looks, she doesn’t bring to the marriage that needed energy that can really help fuel true intimacy. A boudoir shoot can give a woman that much needed confidence. It’s really amazing what a little sexy confidence can do for a marriage.
The Who, What, When of it all…
The photos are an amazing gift to give to a Groom on the wedding night. Valentine’s Day and wedding anniversaries are other occasions when a boudoir shoot would be a very special gift.
There are a lot of amazing photographers to choose from for your shoot and you should find the one that is the best fit for you. If you find that a female photographer would make you feel more comfortable, there are many that would happily welcome you into their studio. Or, if you’re okay with a male photographer, my style is very conservative, as far as boudoir photography goes, so if you are more on the shy side or you just want to keep things tame, I’m the photographer for you! My images are sensual but beautiful and tasteful and not over-the-top sexual. Although you can choose how far you want to go, nudity-wise, most of my clients prefer to wear lingerie or to do what I call “implied nudity” where you aren’t wearing much of anything, but all your girl bits are covered by your arms or legs or with sheets.
Will my photos end up on your website?
It’s fantastic when a woman feels comfortable sharing at least a few of her photos on my website so that other woman can relate and be encouraged to do a shoot that will enrich her marriage. However, it’s completely understandable when a couple wants the boudoir photos to be for his eyes only and I respect that decision and would never share your photos without your permission.
If you are ready to schedule your shoot, or if you have any questions, please contact me! I’d love to talk about it more with you.
Dewwond Mapp : Portrait, Wedding, Event, Boudoir and Glamour Photography, Chicago, Illinois